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R Kelly feels he had every right to stop paying child support, claiming his ex-wife set the ball in motion by turning their children against him.

Sources close to R. Kelly say he was lashing out at Drea Kelly (ex wife)  when he quit writing child support checks ... which is what ultimately landed him in Cook County jail recently.

R Kelly feels like he tried to maintain a relationship with all three of his kids, but he blames Drea for ruining any chance of that. He's said he thinks she brainwashed the kids.

Kelly's revenge move towards his ex wife, just hurt the kids in the long run -- punishing your ex by cutting off the money needed to help your kids.

R Kelly owes Drea over 160K in back child support, and he was begging the court for a reduction so he could get out of jail. He was able to come up with the bare minimum -- $161,633 -- on Saturday and walked out of jail a free man again.

Sources close to R Kelly state the money actually came from a "benefactor." He assured his fans Saturday that "we're gonna straighten all this out."

R Kelly was supposed to be paying Drea $20,833 per month as of January 2009 -- but he fell way off schedule last year.

R. Kelly's camp says the singer got into a huge fight when he last saw Drea back in 2017 ... and after that, she changed her phone number and didn't allow their daughter and 2 sons to talk to him.

Drea however says R Kelly cut her off as a means of controlling her when she first spoke publicly about him allegedly abusing her. She also insists he's the one who changed his phone number.

Drea also says after all of that she still was open to Kelly reconnecting with his kids -- but she says they haven't heard from him since 2017.

Do you believe her or R Kelly?..